'Men In The New Society\r'

'I was raised to take that everything is created equal. This belief was suddenly changed when I entered college. People’s perception and opinion has in a mien awakened me to the reality that our choices in life be sometimes affected by the inequalities set by our wholeiance. These inequalities have adversely influenced people’s choices and fictitious characters in life. These may sometimes come in a very subtle form of formal residence to the expected responsibilities and roles that a person should stomach in the purchase order nonetheless these atomic number 18 harsh forms of loss of individual’s decision and mouthion of hotshot’s being.\r\nSociety’ stereotyping of peeforce and women’s role and responsibilities has created so a flowerpot damage to people curiously among men. In this new age where everything is fast ever-changing and evolving, friendship should consider to view men and women every bit and try to eradicat e stereotyping in the system. Society should learn to be fair and equitable in its relations between men and women.\r\nBoth argon forgiving beings who have the right to live according to ain choices and preferences, rather than according to community’s unsporting expectations and bias opinions. workforce and women a alike(p) should be devoted equal opportunities to discover their purpose in life rather than force to assume traditional roles in the family, society and in the country.\r\nIt is a reality that instantly society still viewed women favorably than men. Women ar afforded more(prenominal) tolerance and understanding while men are stiffly expected to do their roles with ease and comfort. This intercession is raze reinforced because of greater advocacy to the testimonial of women’s rights rather than on the promotion of the comparability of the two sexes.\r\nStudies have sh bear that feminist movement is more prevalent and supported than men move ments. Indeed, society’s intervention between men and women created a wide distance between the two sexes that in yield encouraged men and women alike to strengthen movements supposedly for the purpose of asserting and protecting their respective rights in the society. Conflicts are then heightened rather than resolved.\r\nIt is said that the about ch whollyenging and signifi foott liberate that men in the US face today is the heaviness among men. This issue is anchored on the reality that society’s treatment to men sometimes partake the nature of burdensomeness. manpower are being unfairly deprived from opportunities to express real self. Most often they are pushed to assume roles like that of being the family’s supplier, a obligation that butt joint be traced back traditionally. These norms of roles and responsibilities set by the society are seen as oppressive yet unrecognized by many. According to Schenk â€Å"men’s form of oppression have non been adequately defined, thus they are perceived to be non-existent”. Because of this, society celebrated to set the standard of ways and roles for men and range men’s actions and decisions.\r\nSince childhood, men are taught to be tough and strong. They are taught not to cry or to demonstrate emotions. Their minds are conditioned to be the provider of the family and the defender of the country. Should they fall short on these loving expectations they are criticized, punished, rejected or harmed often passim their lifetime for the effects of the social conditioning that has been stray upon them.\r\nAlso, men have been systematically trained to ca-ca up their beginning constitutional, easy expectation of having relaxed maintenance from an otherwisewise when they are tense. The big boys dont cry article of faith sluice begins very early in a boy’s life unless his parents have nock the effort that is needed to allow his emotional drum out process to be left intact. This mistreatment forces males to hide or defend their distresses, which sometimes makes the process of recovering ones inherent individuality and discovering one’s potential and capabilities much more challenging.\r\nIndeed social expectations are more difficult for men rather than women and society has not done significant actions to exit this reprehensible and unfair cycle. Rather society allows the continued oppression against men by several institutions. Society’s institutions like the armed services, the courts, police and prisons, the drug and alcohol industries, the sports industry, and the work place has directly and indirectly hurt men. Whether society is aware of this is beyond comprehension as society’s only concern is for men to continue serving women and the society in the same hoary traditional system of thinking and behavior.\r\nMen are also falsely portrayed in the media. They are treated stereotypically and as less than merciful passim society. Oftentimes they are projected as the barbaric sex and oppressive to women. This bad projection has created an unerasable mark on the perception of many even to the young generation that makes it more difficult to break the vicious cycle of unrecognized oppression among men.\r\nMen in a way do appropriate privilege from the way society sets up everyone with the roles they are in. But the privileges are real and material. It lacks substance and do not in a way reciprocate the highest need of men which is to have positive self-esteem. It should be noted that the very best of being kind-hearted is not material or material privilege, it is our human qualities to be close, to care for others, build many relationships of all kinds, to feel significant and to have positive self-concept. In these areas the lives of men are certainly not privilege and mostly not yet powerful.\r\nOn the other hand, the extent to which men accept mistreatment and less-than-fully-h uman relationships is the extent that they not only accept their own oppression scarce also contribute to that oppression and pass the acquire oppression to other groups. The internalization of their own groups oppression is all that has been needed to maintain the oppressions of all other groups. When anyone gets tense and behaves in a less-than-fully-human way this behavior reinforces the stereotypes for all the people involved. The oppression of men affects all men.\r\nThe challenge to face and help resolve the issues of oppression among men is so immense. At my stage now, I may not be able to even make a great contribution to these issues. However, my learnings to these issues in life of men and women would help me a lot in my decisions in life. According to Benett-Goleman, â€Å"life itself can be a teacher, presenting us with the chances to transmute the emotions brought up in us.\r\nWhen life disappoints us, it offers an opportunity to reach beyond ordinary conventions and understandings toward a greater perspective” (365). My sensation and understanding to these issues would then strengthen my resolve that I have to stand firm on my decisions and choices. I may not be able to make a significant effect in the society but at least I can make a difference starting from my own life sphere with the significant people in my life. At least I can break-free from this vicious paradigm of behavior.\r\nReference List\r\nBenett-Goleman, Tara. Emotional chemical science: How the Mind can Heal the Heart. New York:\r\n iii Rivers Press, 2001.\r\nSchenk, Roy. Shame and Male Oppression. National Coalition of plain Men. Retrieved February\r\n13, 2007\r\n'